My terminology maybe different. I am using deactivate. On the wp plugin page which shows all of the plugins that were installed that are active, inactive, etc. The Jetpack is not there and is not showing inactive, active, deleted, etc. Knowing that it was installed as part of my theme package, I searched for it in the plugin dashboard, "no plugins found" so when I tried to install it, that's when I got the error message as I listed above.
As for the social media plugin that I was talking about, I deactivated it too. All of the social icons are gone except for the vertical dots going down the page where the icons used to be.